14th share (after 50 lessons, 4 years in & semi retirement?)

13th share: Reunions, reductions & realising your dreams!
June 27, 2013
Presence is more important than presents
November 20, 2013

Well 4 years ago I’d post every week, as I was focussing on my business. Nowadays it’s every 2 months and I’ve been focussing on my relationships more. Lately I’ve had to confront some demons that I thought I’d dealt with 10 years ago when I broke off my relationship and referred myself to a male and female psychologist. Mild abandonment issues from Mum leaving when I was 15 were nothing to worry about as both psychologists confirmed my mental health was tip top.

So now my current partner is understanding if I say I feel a little “funny / concerned” about our future together. We’re about to buy acreage in northern New South Wales and for me it could be semi retirement. However my parents’ messy split has me questioning if “happily ever after” with a man who views money very differently to myself, is possible. Indeed I know it is but we’ve had to work out what’s important to each of us (goals & values), and the reason WHY money’s played out differently in our lives. I’ve seen that money has been my security blanket and if you look hard enough, you can find a solution between two people who are very different. We’ve also both realised that when your dream is finally presented, you may have a tendency to self sabotage at the first hurdle.  While I’ve been saying for years that I’ll be retired by age 45 with 4 investment properties paid off and one environmentally friendly home, at 41, buying the eco friendly home has scared the “bleep” out of me. Little Miss Independent is about to commit to be one of two, and get back into debt (with only 2 investment properties).

So as I prepare to speak with 60 women in south west Sydney tonight you can do the same activity I’ll be asking them to do. Look at what makes your heart sing, then:

  • work out financially what the first few steps have to be
  • choose who you want to do it with (on your own is harder and MUCH less fun)
  • protect the downside (ie do a risk assessment)
  • Let go and trust in the universe!!

So that’s it for now. In a couple of months, when we get the internet on in the bush, I’ll write again 😉 Until then, remember that your presence is more important at Christmas than your presents!! 🙂 xx


  1. Great blog; definitely resonated with me! The hardest part is ‘letting go and trusting in the universe’…that takes enormous courage!

    • Hey Brendan. For us Army types it can be doubly hard, as we’re used to being in control. My brother’s suicide was the worst & best gift of life, showing me I wasn’t always in control. Spirituality helps a lot too! May the force be with you and thanks for reading! x

  2. Hi! Do you use Twitter? I’d like to follow you if that would be okay.

    I’m definitely enjoying your blog and look forward to
    new updates.

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